ENTER THE INTERNET
(AND THE DANGERS & ABUSES RESULTING THEREFROM)!!

For many years, American men have sought Asian brides, with the Philippines being the primary source for these ladies. Pen Pal Clubs, Matchmakers, and Tours have been in the so-called "Mail-Order Bride" industry for decades. And the same abuses suffered by men at the hands of unscrupulous ladies, families and/or organized groups, have now spilled over to the internet, which is perfectly "ripe for the picking" to these same unscrupulous people, as well as newbie's who are often driven by poverty. The only difference being that the potential "harvest" of single men (and their hard-earned cash), is now unlimited and instead of targeting just American and Canadians, now scans the entire globe, thanks to the internet. As such, the intelligent man must now check out his prospective future mate, before he starts sending cash and items to a lady he has never met!!!

Remember that first and foremost, the lady or ladies you are writing to, you have never even met! All you know about her and/or her family, job, location and/or life's situation, is what she has told you, or the photo's she has sent to you. (And hopefully it is a "she" who is at the other end!) It is not uncommon for Filipina (also called Pinay) to be writing to MANY western men on the internet and/or through pen-pal clubs. Each American is, of course, led to believe that "HE" is her one and only! Of course, as American men, we really cannot knock this, since we Americans also usually write to numerous Filipina ladies, as we "narrow the search" for our life mate. The only difference is that in most cases, the girl or lady in the Philippines is usually receiving some form of regular monetary amount or allowance (called a "baon") each month from the men who write her. Often it starts with a request for funds so that she may be able to afford postage, paper and envelopes, or for school expenses or a medical problem for the family. Postage is a valid claim for poor ladies to request, and at the current exchange rates, which fluctuate around 40 to 50 pisos to one US Dollar, therefore, $10.00 a month is plenty for postage, or $10 per week if you wish regular internet communications.

However, in many cases, it usually does not take long before the American is being told that some tragedy, household repair, or hospital bill, school expenses, etc. has hit the family in the Philippines, with a "hint", or even a blatant request for cash to assist in whatever the purported need is. Now in some cases, the need may be legitimate. But in way to many cases it is not!

In many cases, upon conducting field research, the lady actually has a husband (actual or common law), who not only condones but encourages such actions by his wife due to the money it brings in. Many of these husbands will even "disappear" from site when the American man comes to visit what he believes is his Filipina, Pinay fiancée, and even allow his wife to have sex with the Americano! (In many cases the husband has been found to be off at a relative's house taking care of their children, so that they too are out of sight!) Read of more similar situations in the Scams and Warnings Section.

Hopefully, the above will have at least placed you "on-guard" and will help you to stay alert to the possibilities of possible abuses. These are just a few of the common problems encountered by western men. The sob-stories and/or abuses are limited only by their imagination! So beware! Remember the age old adage... IF IT SOUNDS TO GOOD TO BE TRUE... IT PROBABLY IS!!

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